I had dinner last week with cycling friends and between the wine and tiramisu, a friend lamented that feminism was to blame for her inability schedule time to ride her bike. My ears perked up since I sometimes ponder the feminist idea about what it means to “have it all,” except she was kvetching from a different perspective. She griped about cooking and cleaning up from dinner, after beginning a new, temporary job, and she complained that the men she rides with don’t have to worry about chores because their non-working wives do them, affording them plenty of time for a post work ride.
I don’t think it’s about feminism. I think feminism allows women to have choices that at one time weren’t available to them. What women choose to do is up to them. So if my friend can’t find time to work out, isn’t that an organizational problem? What about the millions of single, working parents? I’m sure they would be thrilled to have a sliver of free time. Maybe my friend needs to determine a better way to split household chores amongst her spouse and children? Maybe she needs a better to-do list? What do you think?